WEBVTT 00:00:29.250 --> 00:00:31.050 Oh, hi. Alexa, come in. 00:00:39.984 --> 00:00:41.784 Welcome. 00:00:44.625 --> 00:00:47.424 Relax. You look tense. Yeah. 00:00:48.145 --> 00:00:54.076 Sorry. I haven't had therapy in a while. Well, I mean, you can relax because 00:00:54.125 --> 00:00:56.880 this is a safe environment. So just 00:00:59.519 --> 00:01:01.320 settle. 00:01:02.479 --> 00:01:06.121 I do wanna let you know there's a camera up here. I like to do that for 00:01:06.171 --> 00:01:07.745 security, 00:01:07.795 --> 00:01:14.064 but don't be alarmed. It's just for my personal security in my office here. But 00:01:14.114 --> 00:01:17.314 just wanted you to be aware. Alright. So 00:01:18.674 --> 00:01:20.474 let me see. Let me see. 00:01:22.510 --> 00:01:27.790 Alright. What are the things on your mind today? 00:01:29.709 --> 00:01:32.632 I just really wanna feel normal again. 00:01:32.990 --> 00:01:38.019 I've been super stressed, having a lot of trouble just balancing work. I just 00:01:38.068 --> 00:01:42.701 recently started as a paramedic. How how are you liking the job so far? 00:01:42.751 --> 00:01:47.781 Honestly, it's a bit boring. Just you wait. You'll be missing these Lazydays. 00:01:47.830 --> 00:01:52.599 It's a lot more exciting than this. Station traffic collision. 00:01:55.760 --> 00:02:00.789 Sir, don't move. Where are you hurt? What's the deal with that massive boner? 00:02:00.839 --> 00:02:05.736 Did you see that? I did notice. So you wanna tell us what actually happened 00:02:05.786 --> 00:02:11.013 here? I don't wanna die. Okay. I don't know if the hospital's gonna have time to 00:02:11.063 --> 00:02:16.092 handle it just like that. Well, we have to do something. Yeah. Guess we could 00:02:16.142 --> 00:02:21.237 just do it the old fashioned way. Oh, yeah. And then bam. And balancing family 00:02:21.287 --> 00:02:26.383 life and work. Honestly, I bring work home with me. I'm on call. So, I mean, I 00:02:26.432 --> 00:02:31.527 have to go back to work at any moment's notice, and I just don't have any time 00:02:31.578 --> 00:02:33.731 to decompress really at all. 00:02:36.145 --> 00:02:40.766 Alright. Well, I mean, the first thing I'd like to say, these are all just 00:02:40.817 --> 00:02:45.818 normal things that almost everyone goes through. You're obviously starting a new 00:02:45.868 --> 00:02:50.561 thing. So, I mean, that that's stressful for a lot of people. 00:02:53.159 --> 00:02:54.960 Do you feel like 00:02:57.400 --> 00:03:01.883 is your is the balance between home and life I mean, do you know where that 00:03:01.933 --> 00:03:05.549 should be? Do you know where you want it to be? 00:03:06.135 --> 00:03:11.593 I mean, I'm just feeling a lack of enjoyment, I guess. And it's like know, I 00:03:11.643 --> 00:03:16.798 feel like because of how young I am, I'm supposed to have more fun. 00:03:17.939 --> 00:03:21.139 So it's really, like, not 00:03:23.379 --> 00:03:29.985 yeah. I don't know. Unless it's, like, what I feel comfortable saying. 00:03:32.944 --> 00:03:34.745 Well, I mean, 00:03:35.344 --> 00:03:40.578 we have to every the whole your body posture, everything, it's it's all very 00:03:40.627 --> 00:03:45.998 like, you're wound so tight right now. Like, we need to get you we need to get 00:03:46.049 --> 00:03:49.049 you to just be in a flow state somehow. 00:03:49.719 --> 00:03:55.719 Let me think how to do that. There's a technique here where 00:03:56.520 --> 00:03:58.319 instead of speaking, 00:03:58.665 --> 00:04:01.064 you just you just point 00:04:02.104 --> 00:04:09.266 to yes or no. You just react to it. So, like, I ask you a question and, you 00:04:09.316 --> 00:04:12.104 know, you just kinda indicate 00:04:13.050 --> 00:04:20.398 what you think. So maybe that that might be a way to get you to sort of unwind 00:04:20.447 --> 00:04:22.250 a little bit. Okay. 00:04:24.169 --> 00:04:29.324 Alright. So just, yeah, just hold it there, and let me see what you 00:04:29.764 --> 00:04:31.564 say. Alright. So 00:04:34.324 --> 00:04:37.016 are you excited about your new job? 00:04:44.689 --> 00:04:46.766 Do you like your coworkers? 00:04:52.035 --> 00:04:56.420 Is your family supportive of what you're doing right now? 00:05:02.115 --> 00:05:06.625 mean, remember, we're just we're supposed to be just flowing, and you don't you 00:05:06.675 --> 00:05:08.475 don't even have to 00:05:08.819 --> 00:05:13.694 I think thinking too much might be part of your problem. So I just want you to 00:05:13.744 --> 00:05:18.555 like, your first gut reaction. This is trying to capture your first reaction. 00:05:18.605 --> 00:05:20.406 Flow state. 00:05:32.095 --> 00:05:37.709 how about your overall personal life? Is your overall personal life good? 00:05:41.519 --> 00:05:46.432 Say if you're, like, looking on you gotta just like, you have an immediate 00:05:46.481 --> 00:05:51.593 reaction to that problem. You're just afraid to express it, but you must have 00:05:51.644 --> 00:05:55.798 you must have a a reaction to that to that question. I 00:05:56.545 --> 00:06:01.158 guess I feel like it's a loaded question because it's not sometimes Again, 00:06:01.208 --> 00:06:05.947 again, again, again, this is just, like, so much comple we're just like it's 00:06:05.997 --> 00:06:10.862 just simple. Just yes or no isn't my personal life good. I mean, it's a yes or 00:06:10.912 --> 00:06:12.709 no. Okay. 00:06:12.759 --> 00:06:16.990 Now we're now we're sort of getting somewhere. Okay. So 00:06:17.639 --> 00:06:22.120 is the amount of time that you spend out of work adequate? 00:06:29.935 --> 00:06:34.476 Are the people that you spend time with outside of work is it the right set of 00:06:34.526 --> 00:06:36.680 people? Are they supportive? 00:06:51.685 --> 00:06:56.404 alright, you had one no and a whole bunch of yeses. Mhmm. 00:06:58.564 --> 00:07:00.365 I guess 00:07:00.884 --> 00:07:05.730 so I gotta I gotta try to understand the no area a little more. 00:07:06.310 --> 00:07:12.733 And you and in turn, of course, you need to understand yourself a little more. 00:07:12.783 --> 00:07:15.189 So do you have close friends? 00:07:19.189 --> 00:07:25.512 Do you have a boyfriend? I don't really have time for a boyfriend, so it's, 00:07:25.561 --> 00:07:28.535 like, you know, pretty nonexistent. 00:07:29.655 --> 00:07:34.569 Okay. But I moved I mean, you already said no. You don't have a boyfriend. So I 00:07:34.619 --> 00:07:39.093 I was moving off then trying to understand just physically, like, sexual 00:07:39.144 --> 00:07:43.932 activity. So I guess even without a boyfriend, I mean, there's casual sex. Do 00:07:43.983 --> 00:07:45.783 you have casual sex? 00:07:48.759 --> 00:07:50.913 And what about masturbation? 00:07:56.764 --> 00:07:58.995 No. I don't really have time. 00:08:10.779 --> 00:08:15.288 I guess we need to examine, like, is it really time? Is it a barrier? Is 00:08:15.339 --> 00:08:20.228 something keeping you from exploring that? Because it really doesn't take that 00:08:20.278 --> 00:08:22.740 much time if you think about it. 00:08:25.025 --> 00:08:28.745 I mean, and there's plenty of ways. There's your hands. There's toys. There 00:08:28.794 --> 00:08:31.718 there's all kinds of ways. So I guess, 00:08:32.649 --> 00:08:34.450 basically, 00:08:34.809 --> 00:08:39.106 it's a not functioning area then, the sexual area. I don't really know how I 00:08:39.157 --> 00:08:43.568 know you said it's, like, a part of a system, but I just feel uncomfortable by 00:08:43.619 --> 00:08:46.619 these, like, really personal questions. 00:08:49.264 --> 00:08:51.065 Well, I mean, the 00:08:52.625 --> 00:08:57.904 system thing is the answer, but I let me try to illustrate in another way. 00:08:57.955 --> 00:09:03.523 Like, we we talked about a bunch of things in the beginning. Your answers were 00:09:03.573 --> 00:09:06.111 very tense. You were very closed. 00:09:06.990 --> 00:09:13.195 Everything was inward. And then we tried to break it open a little bit with the 00:09:13.245 --> 00:09:19.450 yes, no thing, and everything was yes except for this one area. Right? This one 00:09:19.500 --> 00:09:25.705 area was a no. So we got it, like, yes, yes, yes, yes, and then no. So, really, 00:09:25.755 --> 00:09:31.802 I mean, I'm not doing my job, obviously, if we gotta we gotta get to where we 00:09:31.852 --> 00:09:37.899 unpack why that one no happened. And, therefore, this line of reasoning is is 00:09:37.948 --> 00:09:44.075 the way to do that. I mean, I'm uncomfortable, but I guess that makes sense. I 00:09:44.124 --> 00:09:50.250 mean, obviously, like, you went to a professional because you you need someone 00:09:50.300 --> 00:09:56.110 you can trust and, like, has knowledge of of, like, unpacking this kind of 00:09:56.159 --> 00:10:01.940 stuff. So, I mean, I think that's I think that's why we need to go there. 00:10:05.139 --> 00:10:06.980 So, I mean, 00:10:09.144 --> 00:10:13.832 again, the not masturbation thing, is it is it that you don't think about it, 00:10:13.883 --> 00:10:15.682 or is it that, 00:10:15.865 --> 00:10:20.904 like, you don't have the right toys? Like, what what is the barrier? Like, you 00:10:20.955 --> 00:10:25.865 live with the wrong people? Are you asking if I use toys? Well, you said you 00:10:25.914 --> 00:10:31.019 don't masturbate. I I guess I'm asking, do you even have access to toys? Do you 00:10:31.070 --> 00:10:35.455 have access to the things that would help you masturbate? 00:10:38.034 --> 00:10:42.754 I mean, I like toys, but I don't use toys. 00:10:48.000 --> 00:10:49.799 It seems to me like 00:10:51.440 --> 00:10:56.442 like there's just a lot of paralysis with thinking and, like, you don't I don't 00:10:56.492 --> 00:11:01.431 I think you don't just, like, go for it sometimes. Let me think what. Didn't I 00:11:01.481 --> 00:11:05.634 didn't you bring a water bottle or something with you? 00:11:08.134 --> 00:11:13.552 Alright. I have an idea. I have an idea. Let's let's just let's just set this, 00:11:13.601 --> 00:11:16.293 the question. Just stand up for me. 00:11:17.429 --> 00:11:19.815 Take the water. Take the water. 00:11:20.950 --> 00:11:25.591 Now just have a drink of water first. Just breathe, relax. Just have a drink of 00:11:25.642 --> 00:11:29.719 water. You'll see where I'm going with this, I think. 00:11:33.575 --> 00:11:38.770 Now so that's conventional. That's what everyone would do. What? Just just pour 00:11:38.820 --> 00:11:43.884 the water on yourself. You want to pour the water on myself? Yeah. Sure. Just 00:11:43.933 --> 00:11:49.129 pour the water. Just do crazy thing. Just, like, let go. Just pour the water on 00:11:49.179 --> 00:11:51.948 yourself. But what about the camera? 00:11:52.529 --> 00:11:56.995 The security camera? Yeah. I mean, the security camera is, like, to protect my 00:11:57.045 --> 00:12:01.451 office in case somebody breaks in or something. Like, it it doesn't matter. I 00:12:01.502 --> 00:12:06.501 was just telling you that it was there to be proper, but, I mean, 00:12:06.704 --> 00:12:10.570 again, this isn't a I mean, this isn't a visual thing. I just it's a behavioral 00:12:10.620 --> 00:12:13.235 thing. I just wanna see you, like, 00:12:14.060 --> 00:12:18.940 do something not so rigid. Okay. 00:12:30.274 --> 00:12:33.812 That that's still kind of a little rigid. Just 00:12:37.634 --> 00:12:39.434 better? Better? 00:12:41.554 --> 00:12:47.397 I mean, it kinda felt good. So, look, you just gotta go for it. You just gotta 00:12:47.446 --> 00:12:49.246 go for it. Yes. 00:12:50.740 --> 00:12:58.187 K. Now now now now see when you don't live so so so tight and confined, doesn't 00:12:58.237 --> 00:13:05.399 it doesn't it just I mean, that's the first time you smiled this whole time. 00:13:05.450 --> 00:13:07.250 Yeah. 00:13:07.524 --> 00:13:13.750 I guess I mean, now wet and cold, but it just Well, I mean, it is a hot day and 00:13:13.799 --> 00:13:20.024 whatever. I mean It does feel a lot better. I mean, I can't believe I did that. 00:13:20.074 --> 00:13:26.219 So you just you just gotta be in that zone. You know? I mean, like here. Look. 00:13:26.269 --> 00:13:28.254 I'll bet. Let's see here. 00:13:30.575 --> 00:13:32.375 Yeah. See? 00:13:34.335 --> 00:13:40.044 Like like, there was much more tension in you when you when you first got here. 00:13:40.095 --> 00:13:41.894 Yeah. 00:13:42.459 --> 00:13:45.580 I mean I mean, everywhere, really. 00:13:47.705 --> 00:13:54.203 I mean, again, to get your mind free It's, like, normal? Your body needs to be 00:13:54.253 --> 00:13:56.184 free. No. I mean, every 00:13:57.304 --> 00:13:59.384 every patient, you need to 00:14:00.910 --> 00:14:07.789 get at the core of what what they need. Do you understand me? What they need. 00:14:09.149 --> 00:14:11.149 So what can I say? 00:14:20.254 --> 00:14:23.455 It's so nice, actually. Mean, 00:14:24.975 --> 00:14:30.784 I was asking you earlier, like, so no one, I mean, no one in your life is is 00:14:30.834 --> 00:14:34.149 there to to do this kind of thing then? No. 00:14:42.705 --> 00:14:48.174 Yeah. God. That is soaking wet. Here, let's just let's just open this up. 00:14:48.225 --> 00:14:50.024 What 00:14:51.105 --> 00:14:56.964 are you doing? I I just think it'll it'll dry off like a here. Let's just hang 00:14:57.013 --> 00:14:58.610 this up. 00:14:58.659 --> 00:15:04.019 I mean, that was a useful exercise, but there's no reason to just 00:15:08.274 --> 00:15:13.110 But it's okay. There's only professionals here. I mean, it's it's fine. 00:15:13.161 --> 00:15:14.961 Alright. So let's see. 00:15:18.115 --> 00:15:24.389 Yeah. I think I think it's good. I think I think I mean You know, there's a lot 00:15:24.439 --> 00:15:25.750 of crucial 00:15:25.800 --> 00:15:27.600 stress nerves here 00:15:29.399 --> 00:15:31.480 in here. Yeah. See that? 00:15:35.485 --> 00:15:37.804 It does feel really good. 00:15:43.565 --> 00:15:46.284 Here, just you get up. You get up. 00:15:50.190 --> 00:15:51.990 Remember the water? 00:15:52.269 --> 00:15:57.577 Just right now just right now in this moment, just be the water. Just 00:15:58.269 --> 00:16:00.070 you see? 00:16:30.915 --> 00:16:36.392 Yeah. You know? Like, this is just all soaking wet. I think I think we just 00:16:36.441 --> 00:16:42.139 gotta hang this up too. I mean, I don't know about this. Yeah. The it's, like, 00:16:42.189 --> 00:16:47.886 soaking wet and, like, you're on the couch and everything, so let's just let's 00:16:47.936 --> 00:16:51.552 let's just lose this. Okay. Let's just I guess. 00:16:53.079 --> 00:16:59.003 That makes sense. Here, have a seat. I can I can I can take care of it there? 00:17:04.904 --> 00:17:06.704 There. 00:17:07.865 --> 00:17:09.664 Alright. 00:17:10.105 --> 00:17:16.866 Again, here, whenever whenever you whenever you lose focus on what we're doing, 00:17:16.916 --> 00:17:18.717 just just think 00:17:19.090 --> 00:17:21.569 the water flow like the water. 00:17:23.090 --> 00:17:24.890 You know? Mhmm. 00:17:25.809 --> 00:17:27.609 Free. 00:17:30.924 --> 00:17:35.244 Now let's just uh-huh. Yes. 00:17:38.285 --> 00:17:45.144 This is a part of the therapy? Well, if your body is as tight as a as a wound 00:17:45.194 --> 00:17:52.232 up coil, do you really think you can relax your mind enough for therapy to work 00:17:52.282 --> 00:17:54.083 correctly? 00:17:54.299 --> 00:17:57.075 I mean, your core coil 00:17:58.194 --> 00:17:59.994 has to be uncoiled. 00:18:15.089 --> 00:18:20.457 Everywhere I'm touching, I mean, is a key pressure point. It it might not be 00:18:20.506 --> 00:18:26.157 acknowledged in this country, but in eastern science or African science, I mean, 00:18:26.208 --> 00:18:31.575 there's some place that would acknowledge that these are the right places to 00:18:31.624 --> 00:18:33.424 touch. You know? 00:18:35.884 --> 00:18:39.192 It does it does feel really good, actually. 00:18:43.579 --> 00:18:45.887 And I see the breathing helps. 00:19:04.009 --> 00:19:10.250 this still part of the therapy? Great. We need to reestablish human 00:19:10.650 --> 00:19:12.650 contact, human sensuality. 00:19:42.875 --> 00:19:50.917 don't know about about that. How does it how does the flow feel? Let's see. How 00:19:50.968 --> 00:19:57.115 is the flow? Oh, the flow is good, I think. The flow's okay. 00:20:04.919 --> 00:20:10.518 I feel like if you let yourself you you would really just flow through a lot of 00:20:10.567 --> 00:20:12.367 things in life. 00:20:28.609 --> 00:20:31.329 It's just so constraining. 00:20:37.970 --> 00:20:39.769 I'm not I'm not sure. 00:21:30.660 --> 00:21:34.740 Alright. So here's a key point now. You can feel 00:21:35.619 --> 00:21:38.019 ah, yes. See see the 00:21:39.355 --> 00:21:43.355 see your body is your body is telling you something. 00:21:46.234 --> 00:21:49.849 You have to listen to your body at these times. 00:22:21.049 --> 00:22:25.289 You feel your body your body is communicating. 00:22:26.090 --> 00:22:29.690 Your body is flowing. Flowing. 00:22:30.730 --> 00:22:37.553 And then when your energy flows, you can have an effect on the people around 00:22:37.603 --> 00:22:42.035 you, a very positive effect. See see that effect? 00:22:45.529 --> 00:22:49.210 I mean I mean, did you realize that your 00:22:49.849 --> 00:22:51.769 flow state can actually, 00:22:52.809 --> 00:22:57.369 like, facilitate such a strong reaction in people? 00:23:00.115 --> 00:23:02.115 But what about the camera? 00:23:02.994 --> 00:23:08.686 I mean, I'm no one's breaking in right now, so I'm I'm not gonna watch it. 00:23:13.200 --> 00:23:16.880 But you said you haven't really addressed these 00:23:17.919 --> 00:23:20.160 needs in a long time. No. 00:23:22.399 --> 00:23:27.125 I mean, this is a safe way to do it. You 00:23:28.325 --> 00:23:30.787 do feel really good in my hands. 00:23:38.929 --> 00:23:43.089 Just, like, put it in my mouth? Yeah. 00:23:55.575 --> 00:23:57.375 That is so full. 00:24:18.769 --> 00:24:22.461 I think I think I can feel I can feel artificial 00:24:23.409 --> 00:24:25.970 barriers set aside. 00:24:33.475 --> 00:24:35.275 Can you feel it? 00:25:06.285 --> 00:25:08.085 It's just floral. 00:26:09.900 --> 00:26:15.930 That felt very freeing. Let me let me see. There's ways I can tell. Just sit 00:26:15.980 --> 00:26:19.740 down here. Let me just lean back. Uh-huh. Yeah. 00:26:59.589 --> 00:27:03.951 I mean, we were talking about the toy thing, but this is in many ways superior 00:27:04.002 --> 00:27:05.801 to the toy situation. 00:27:20.055 --> 00:27:21.855 But I think, really, 00:27:22.215 --> 00:27:24.829 there's a more fulfilling version. 00:28:34.125 --> 00:28:36.355 I can feel my stress leaving. 00:29:32.404 --> 00:29:36.791 Alright. You're starting to you're starting to release this, but I want you to 00:29:36.841 --> 00:29:41.343 take control of your own pleasure. I want you to just get up on top here and and 00:29:41.392 --> 00:29:43.931 you control the motion. You know? 00:29:54.470 --> 00:29:57.670 That's 00:30:07.724 --> 00:30:09.525 That's it. 00:30:39.789 --> 00:30:46.109 I see how you can place the place the pleasure inside you. 00:31:40.490 --> 00:31:42.289 So good. 00:34:31.519 --> 00:34:34.981 Let's get to a more intimate level with this. 00:35:17.135 --> 00:35:18.934 It feels so good. 00:37:46.614 --> 00:37:51.230 Alright. I have a crazy idea like the water. Go upside down. 00:37:52.055 --> 00:37:53.855 Trust me. 00:39:10.440 --> 00:39:12.239 I need to come too. 00:39:34.390 --> 00:39:36.190 Such a breakthrough. 00:39:36.630 --> 00:39:38.420 Such a breakthrough. 00:39:38.469 --> 00:39:45.057 Honestly, I didn't think therapy would be this fun. I think I may quit my job 00:39:45.107 --> 00:39:47.434 or take psychology classes. 00:39:48.875 --> 00:39:53.413 Well, in the meantime, we can continue sessions, of course.